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Local Lesbian Couple Denied Marriage License

Kären Rasmussen and Barb Brehm, both longtime Fairfax County residents, attempted to apply for a marriage license at the Fairfax County Courthouse on Valentine's Day.

 

Annandale residents Kären Rasmussen and Barb Brehm didn't walk into the Fairfax County Courthouse on Tuesday afternoon with high hopes.

They knew Virginia law denies same-sex couples the right to marry and, despite the fact the partners have committed themselves to each other for the past 27 years, Valentine's Day proved no exception.

Fairfax Circuit Court Clerk John Frey met Rasmussen and Brehm in the lobby of the courthouse and escorted them to a conference room. The women filled out paperwork necessary to obtain a marriage certificate and Frey provided a letter explaining why state law would not permit him to issue one.

"Mr. Frey was incredibly gracious," Brehm said. "That doesn't mean it was wrong to ask and to keep asking."

Nearly 300 supporters turned out Tuesday to agree with Brehm, taking a stand for gay marriage on the courthouse lawn. The group clapped and sang for Rasmussen and Brehm as the couple exited the building, holding hands. 

Groups represented at the demonstration included People of Faith for Equality in Virginia, the Unitarian Universalist Church of Arlington and the Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Fairfax, where Brehm and Rasmussen are members. Similar demonstrations were scheduled Tuesday in Arlington County and Richmond.

Roger LeBlanc, a freshman at George Mason University, said he attended Tuesday's event to help raise awareness about LGBT issues. LeBlanc said he served as an usher when his aunt married her partner in Massachusetts, where same-sex marriage is legal, several years ago.

"I've been a witness to how beautiful and awesome that can be," he said.

Virginia banned gay marriage in 2006. Last year, a Washington Post poll showed 47 percent of the state supported gay marriage while 43 percent remained against it. With a Republican-dominated legislature this year, that stance isn't likely to change any time soon.

Kelly Schlageter, a member of the Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Fairfax and an organizer of Tuesday's demonstration, said momentum for marriage equality is growing in Virginia.

"People are becoming motivated to speak out," Schlageter said.

No counter-demonstrations were apparent on the courthouse grounds.

Rasmussen thanked the crowd for taking time to support them on Tuesday.

"Next time, (the court) might say yes and we want you to be with us when they say yes," she said.

Patch Editor Erica Hendry contributed to this report.

Related Topics: Barb Brehm, Fairfax County Courthouse, Gay Marriage, Karen Rasmussen, Valentine's Day, and Virginia

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Sean Booth

10:29 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Did you read the bible? I don't think they should get married! I will support all gays but not when it comes to getting married, because if something likes this happens now 10 years from now people will want to marry their pets,phones and other things.

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David Salzberg

7:40 am on Wednesday, February 15, 2012

The first amendment states that there is no state religion. By my reckoning, the bible has no basis in defining our laws.

Gail G

5:08 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

The denial of a marraige license by a state actor on the grounds of geneder violates my freedom of religion under the First Amendment. My religious beliefs are that marriage between any two consenting adults is okay with God. So, Virginia, why are you denying me my religious freedom? Why are you denying this loving couple their religious freedom and civil rights?

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Spider

6:05 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Every version of the Bible I've read, God's word condems homosexuality. So it does not appear okay with God.

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David Salzberg

7:46 am on Wednesday, February 15, 2012

If that is true, then how come many religious organizations, such as reform Judaism have no problem with sexual orientation.

Spider

6:04 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

I guess down the road, pedophiles will want to marry children and humans animals. Marriage is meant for a man and a woman. Our society is on a slippery slope to a loss of morals. It may not be the politically correct or hip thing to say but it is correct.

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Jerome

2:25 am on Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Spider, that's just plain silly. We are talking about human adults who want marriage equality.

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Damedeker

2:50 pm on Wednesday, February 15, 2012

You are confusing homosexual and pedophile. Pedophiles are most often heterosexuals (some of them married and leading "normal " lives) who pray on children. Homosexuals have relationships with consenting adults of their own sex. Pedophiles damage children for life.

John Samsky

7:04 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

It's really not my business what two consenting adults do. Who's it hurting?

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Kim

7:05 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

It is tricky to base our laws on the Bible. Jesus condemns divorce for any reason other than adultery and, even then, the divorced person may not marry again until the original spouse dies. So, how many religions still go with that paradigm? If you base your morals on Biblical laws, be prepared to defend your hypocrisy.

BTW, great special on HBO tonight about an "immoral" marriage in Virginia years ago. I see a connection!

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Spider

7:40 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

As the marriage goes years ago in Va that was a white man marrying a black woman. Equating that skin color discrimination is somehow related to someone choosing a perverse lifestyle doesnt cut it. One your born with and the latter is a choice.

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David Salzberg

7:44 am on Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Spider, you are the one with the problem. The gay citizens of the US do not try to enforce their lifestyle on you. They just want to be able to live their life in the manner they choose -- as consenting adults.

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Carol Lewis

12:02 pm on Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Being gay is not a choice, Spider....and just where in the Bible does it say Adam and Eve got married? It's a civil contract.

Gail G

7:13 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

The bible is not the only holy book & most people don't take it literally. BTW pedophiles can marry now anyway.

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Spider

7:41 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

But it is the only True book. And it is the only one that counts.

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Sean Booth

10:30 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

READ THE BIBLE GAIL!! ADAM AND EVE NOT ADAM AND STEVE

Andrea B

9:19 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

The Bible also prohibits divorce and charging interest for loans. It does advocate stoning disobedient children, however.

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Jerome

2:27 am on Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Leviticus also provides for a man to sell his sister into slavery. It does not, however, indicate how to do the pricing.

Gail G

10:04 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Wow Spider, you arrogance ande ignorance are astounding. You seem to want to repeal the First Amendment.

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Sean Booth

10:26 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

I DON'T THINK GAY PEOPLE SHOULD GET MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THE People in Virginia Voted and they voted NO!!!!! she shouldn't be able to get married!!!!! I love gay people but its not right and its not on the bible. if we allow them to get married it will became a joke

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David Salzberg

7:47 am on Wednesday, February 15, 2012

I do not care if you call it marriage, but with marriage comes certain legal rights. Any couple, gay or straight, should have the ability to maintain those rights. For example, if I had a pension, my wife would have rights to it after my death. If I was gay, my life partner should have the same rights. Gay people pay taxes (actually much more than the general population, because they typically do not take advantage of many of the deductions).

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aab

10:55 am on Tuesday, February 19, 2013

wow...feelin' your love, Sean.

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Carol Lewis

12:00 pm on Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Sean Booth, you do not love gay people. Cling to your beliefs if you must but don't claim to love them. You don't.

Sean Booth

10:37 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

WHY DO people think its coool to be gay

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aab

11:08 am on Tuesday, February 19, 2013

It's not cool...it just is. When people tell me it's a choice...my response is, Why wouldn't I chose the "white picket fence" rather than have people hurl nasty things at me...have a restaurant tell me they don't want my kind....have my fellow Virginians vote on my life.
The choice is...live the truth that I am, or hide and live a false life .Living a false life helps no one.
I know that is not a choice for me...what proof do you have otherwise. When did you choose to be straight--at what age.?
Glad my God is more supportive of love than your God.

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Carol Lewis

12:00 pm on Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Sean Booth, why would you say that? Why would, given all the harassment and bullying that gay kids go through, would anyone think they chose that? I echo aab - did you choose to be straight?

Susan Bennett

7:47 am on Wednesday, February 15, 2012

My faith calls me to affirm the inherent worth and dignity of every human being. I believe that God doesn't make mistakes and he made all of us, gay and straight alike.

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David Salzberg

7:48 am on Wednesday, February 15, 2012

I commend the woman's courage. Lately, the government of Va has been an embarrassment to our liberties.

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Mary B.

7:49 am on Wednesday, February 15, 2012

I can't understand why marriage is still limited to two people. With the cost of living so high these days, loving partnerships among three or more adults would help create stable families.

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Laura B.

8:07 am on Wednesday, February 15, 2012

To those who seem to confuse the Bible with the Constitution, may I suggest that you actually read the Bible and not just look at quotations taken out of context by interest groups? Marriages in the Bible are NOT as you describe. Seriously. Read it. Also, there's the issue of combining linen and wool.

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Common Sense

8:52 am on Wednesday, February 15, 2012

It is not about denying gay couples to like each other. If they want to be together, so be it. The point here is that they are trying to redefine the meaning & value of 'marriage', which is between male & female. If they want to have civil unions, or maybe create a new 'name' and meaning to their union, so be it. I don't mind if they have the same benefits as married couples, but do not call it marriage, because taht is reserved for man and woman. For example, would we give the name 'citizen' to an illegal who lives here? Wouldn't that redefine the word & value of 'citizenship?

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Carol Lewis

11:58 am on Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Just why is "marriage" reserved for a man and a woman? No we wouldn't call undocumented people "citizens" until they are, but gay people are citizens and as such entitled to the same rights and privileges as the rest of us. Civil unions do not accord all of the rights of marriage. How does gay marriage devalue it?

Nicole R. Smith

9:00 am on Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Can't we find a way to just be happy for others who have found happiness that doesn't hurt anyone else - I am an elder at church and have read the bible and I promise I won't use quotations taken from the context of the book to create hate and judgement>>>>I believe acceptance, and love and tolerance are the primary message you were meant to have taken from the book.

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Rhonda Vanover

12:21 pm on Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Although many people choose to be married in churches, marriage is actually a legal civil union. Otherwise, one would have to go to church to get a divorce. That's not the way it works. Also, please believe me when I say gay people hate pedophiles and hillbillies as much as anyone.

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FFX County Resident

3:01 pm on Wednesday, February 15, 2012

love and tolerance- Tolerance is define as "a fair, objective, and permissive attitude toward those whose opinions, practices, race, religion, nationality, etc., differ from one's own." To have such a definition accepted across this nation and have it pushed from one side or the other is just wrong. I personally find homosexuality offensive. It is my right to say that it offends me, and therefore if it offends me, the ones pushing the effort of "gay" marriage is fringing on my constitutional rights and civil liberties. As a voter, I voted "NO" like a majority. If a majority can win the opposite vote swaying others, and it becomes law, I will be in the minority fighting to repeal it just like you are now. The Bible is what it is. It is the oldest book in history and yet, we as "society" have twisted its meaning to distort the truths in our favor. Its a matter of faith and belief, not distorted context, that Christianity was founded. This country was founded on Christianity. Being gay or accepting the lifestyle is a choice. So please stop flaunting the "gay" issues in my face, read the Bible in the many versions, and get back to real social issues. Morality is actuality; live it, breathe it, love it!

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Groovis Maximus

6:04 pm on Wednesday, February 15, 2012

I thought the New England colonists came here to escape religious persecution and intolerance? It seems to me like the Nation was founded on the principles of tolerance.

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What?

3:54 pm on Friday, February 17, 2012

Hypocrisy. Look it up and then read your own post again. Sheesh.

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Carol Lewis

11:56 am on Tuesday, February 19, 2013

And just how does gay marriage infringe on your rights? Who are you to say gay people are not moral.

Gail G

3:15 pm on Wednesday, February 15, 2012

The bible is not the oldest book in history and not even the oldest writing in history. The Gutenberg Bible may be oldest printed book that still exists. It depends on how you define "book." There has been verifiable writing since about the 3rd mil. BC which included things like the Ancient Egyptian Book of the Dead, the books of the Pentateuch, and Sumerian poetry and epic. It is very hard to date these definitively, but they're all older than the bible.

If we looks at works still read today, the earliest are the five books of the Torah and the first five of the bible and scholars generally agree that those books were written between the 15th and 10th centuries BC. However, the earliest surviving versions date only to about 200 BCE. It is known as the Septuagint and is written in Greek. One of the earliest novel-like stories which still survives is the Epic of Gilgamesh, a Sumerian epic poem. The surviving version was written on clay tablets in the 7th century BCE. Something called the "Instructions of Shuruppak ," another Sumerian text that still exists, was written around 3000 BC. In fact, the Ten Commandments were basically plagiarized from the Code of Hammurabi, which is far older than the bible and still exists in the Louvre Museum in Paris. I have a photo of myself standing in front of it. You can't expect us to take you seriously unless you have your historical and scientific facts absolutely correct.

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Will Radle

4:33 pm on Thursday, February 16, 2012

Respectfully, does anyone want Virginia's General Assembly debating the sacred writings of the Christian, Jewish, or any other religion? People who want to oppress others must have a better argument or join the cause for liberty. Otherwise, we devolve into asking whom did Cain and Abel marry in the Bible.

For me, I was proudly one of the 300 who stood with Barb and Karen on Valentine's Day as they confirmed their love one for another. Love is good. Don't you know?

Thank you.

A. Will Radle, Jr.
www.VA8.com

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journeygirl

12:54 am on Thursday, May 10, 2012

I am yes to the the glbt marriage. They are born like that as a gay thats not their fault. If god forgive us for our sin why cant we people we just only human. And the only thing that they did is to love one another so what is wrong with that so try to see something good your not a god. We dont have to judge them. They just want to live like a normal people do. Who will be the sinner, you that judge them or the gay people that they only want us to respect and accept them for who they are and love them for what they are. I respect the bible like everybody did. But God respect and love his son more for his life. So youre not a God to judge for what they. God made us and he equally love us. !

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Carol Lewis

11:54 am on Tuesday, February 19, 2013

To all those who say they support gay people, have no problem with gay people, LOVE gay people, BUT don't favor gay marriage: Your love and support for them is not as great as you think if you can't accord them the same rights and responsibilities as other citizens of this state/country. For those who offer the ridiculous argument that this is a slope that will lead to people marrying animals or children, grow up. We're talking about a marriage between two consenting adults, be they of the same gender or not. The parts of the Bible that condemn gay sex are in the Old Testament. Jesus never said a word about it...and he hung out with guys.

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